Settling for less

When has being second ever been fun? Being second is never OK, so why would you settle for being second best. I constantly see this all the time, I see guys and girls not able to get their first choice so they always fall back on lucky number 2 and of course they feel like they should be lucky to have been picked. The worst part is that the person who is picked second to them you are there number one. As much as it seems like a match made perfect its not. That means because you were second option they can always drop you for someone else and it wont be a big deal, your always going to have to fight for your spot in their life because you weren't the number one option in the first place. But have you really thought about it. If you are OK being number two your settling as if you don't deserve to be anyones number one. Well NEWSFLASH we all deserve to be the number one for someone don't degrade your self by allowing yourself to be someones fall back don't lower your standards and accept number two because number one fell through. We are all worth so much more its about time we put that into play. If I'm not number one then you don't get me at all. If I can't have number one I'm going to find someone who is deserving of the number one spot.

In it for the right reasons.....

Relationships are often taken lightly but their are people who take them extremely serious. Most women get into relationships because they want to get to a long term goal, which might be marriage or to start a family what ever the case is their is most likely a goal they want to reach. We all know communication is the key to any relationship but when you are asked "Where do you see this going" don't you think you should have a response. If you are putting yourself in a relationship it shouldn't be just for the moment. That can seem selfish and a waste of the other persons time and energy. We put so much of our selfs in to the partnership with the other person for them to just think that it is just a fling or a short term thing. I understand men don't communicate very well which is OK most women are willing to work with you but if you can't answer the question "Where is this going" than I have to say maybe you not their for the right reasons. Even though we may hate labels on certain relationships its actually a problem solver, with a label you know exactly what your in and what is to be expected. Don't drag someones heart through the mud without telling them were the destination is. We all hurt and weather we all say "Its whatever" we all feel the hurt of being mislead and walking blindly for no reason.